Get yourself a cup of coffee + settle in for a few minutes. This post is a little different, but I think you may enjoy it.
Since resurrecting this site last Fall, it was always my intention to eventually incorporate posts that would go far beyond all of the surface level “stuff”. Obviously, I adore writing about new products + styling different outfits, but what I love even more is talking openly + honestly with other women + girls [men too!] about some of the important things that we all face.
I’ve mulled for months about how to introduce this to my blog without feeling embarrassed or getting too emotional or deep or spiritual or sounding preachy or strange, or I don’t know what exactly, but I wanted to do it right! As time goes on, I continue to receive really moving messages from people that I know, and people that I don’t know about some of the internal challenges they’re facing… challenges I face as well. It’s both humbling + upsetting because you realize that we’re all doing this “life” thing together…and at the end of the day, I think we all want the same things. So, with that said, I think that there’s a little room [+ an audience] to start this kind of discussion on my blog, and what better time to start than now?!
I’ve decided to title the mini-series “Becoming Bella” [yes, a play on my name], but it’s actually quite literal. We’re going to talk about becoming beautiful — from the inside out. I want to share with you how I’m learning to do it, and how you can too. I’ve had some important lessons + “ah-ha” moments in my life thus far, specifically over the last year, that are worth sharing. I hope that they’re able to help you in some way + that you’ll be inspired to share stories about your lives + teach me something as well! 🙂
Ok! First lesson in this course:
There is a quote that constantly floats around… “Comparison is the thief of joy” and I don’t know about you, but no words have ever rang more true for me. In this day + age, thanks to social media, it is nearly impossible not to compare yourself to others. Whether you’re looking at someones physical appearance, career, success, family, relationships, etc. it all can sting you in different ways. I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve been guilty of this, and I can’t say it never happens anymore, but I’ve learned to not let it steal my joy. Here’s how:
Repeat after me: “You are YOU.”
This has been my favorite “ah-ha” moment to date + one that I am so excited to talk about.
The moment it clicks with you that you are truly one-of-a-kind, your life will change. It seems like a no brainer, something that you may have been told many times before, but seriously, let it sink in for a second. You are you. You have a combination of features, talents, and traits that no one else will never have. You may think that someone else seems happier, prettier, more successful, more intelligent, more passionate, more whatever…and you may feel like they beat you at every category in the book, but they are probably thinking the same exact things about someone else too. It’s human nature to think this way, however, the sooner you learn to accept yourself for the beautiful individual that you are, you win. No one can take that away from you. And that is your power!Understanding this has not only has helped me to become more confident in who I am, but it has helped me to appreciate the unique beauty + talents in others!
Everyone has something different to offer the world, and it’s important to encourage + cheer one another on…even those who have similar goals as you. Don’t take the jealousy or insecure route. Realize that their path may seem similar, but it is not yours. Look at them as motivation + inspiration to continue hustling for what you want while appreciating both of your abilities to accomplish things in your own ways. There’s room for everyone to make it!
We could all list things we wish we had OR we could all be grateful for the things that we do have. Once you approach life that way, you actually start living. There are days where I’m so happy I could cry. There are days where I have no idea what I did to deserve all of the blessings that I do have. There are days where I actually fear these feelings of sheer joy will somehow be ripped away from me because there is no way it’s fair for life to be this wonderful! It sounds kind of crazy, but it was a small change in my thinking that has been incredibly liberating.
A quick story about when this was beginning to click for me: I was driving with my Mom a few months ago, it was a warm day, we were in a Wrangler, the roof was off, the sun was shining + I was telling her that I had been feeling so happy lately that I was almost scared. I was scared of being this happy because I never wanted to feel any other way. And she simply replied “That’s cause you’re finally living!” When you find happiness within yourself, when you’re doing something that you love, and when you put yourself out there… you make room for good things to come into your life. And let me tell you, they WILL walk right in.
The blog world is certainly saturated with a ton of girls doing very similar things, but what I love most about it, is that every blogger is completely different. I appreciate the people who are real, honest, open, and just doing life in their own way! They cannot be copied, duplicated, or ousted because it’s impossible to be them.
Take a peek at some of the ladies who I admire for working their butts off, constantly supporting others, + just being themselves! 🙂Brittany [Kingdom of Sequins], Christina [Christina’s Chic Corner], Desiree [Desire + Attire], Elisabeth [Everything + Nothin‘], Kaitlyn [Me, Myself, and Everything Else] , Angie [Indulge Your Inner Foodie], Saira [Through the Glitter Glass], Hannah [Louboutins + Lipstick], Gail [Simply Gail G], Jamie [Jamie Ever After] and the list seriously goes on, and on, and on, and on!!
These ladies are certainly amazing in their own ways + inspire me to continue doing things MY way too!
If you’re not where you want to be in life yet, know that it is never too late to get there! Don’t be discouraged by others, just stay focused, work hard, be a good person, and remember that you have a unique + beautiful flair that no one other than you can ever share with the world!
I hope you guys enjoyed this post + weren’t totally thrown off by it. I’m looking forward to developing this series + chatting about some of issues that many of us are faced with on the daily!
As always, thank you guys for reading!! I hope that you have a wonderful rest of your week. 🙂
Have you ever felt down because you’ve compared yourself to others?
Think about the things that make you unique today!