I am so very excited to share the second Becoming Bella post with you guys today!
I cannot begin to express how heartwarming it was to receive the kind of response that I did after sharing the first one. It really reassured me that the decision to add this kind of material to my blog was a positive one, so THANK YOU!
With that said, I apologize for taking so long to get the next one up, but you know…life. I’m going to try and work these into my posting schedule a little more frequently. 🙂
Alright, onto the good stuff! This topic may seem bizarre to some of you, but I think it’s very relevant for many – including myself.
Who doesn’t love to feel like they have all of their ducks are in a row?! You know, the feeling when work is going good, your relationships are good, your finances are good, your confidence is good — everything just feels good + life is great? I love those days more than anything! Unfortunately, there are days or moments when my crazy ducks have a mind of their own + are spread out all over the freaking place. When this happens, my happy spirit + positive outlook take a turn down a dark, negative path.
I have this tendency to overthink, overanalyze, and over-stress…essentially over nothing. And I get in my own head!
For me, the freaking out is usually future related. When I say “future”, it covers anything from 5 minutes from now, to next year + beyond! I let the unknown + the weight of everything I have to do, or the things that I want [but don’t have yet] stir me up and break me down. Ex: “If ABC hasn’t happened yet, will it EVER?! …And how much longer until it does?! [insert sink-hole of negativity here]” Sound familiar to anyone?
Every so often, I’ll harp on one negative thought, and my mind runs completely wild with it. I have this miraculous ability to turn the tiniest thing into a full blown, disastrous, hypothetical situation. At this point, you may be thinking I need therapy or something, but in reality, I just need to freaking calm downnnn.
Each of our lives evolve at their own pace — do not compare yours to anyone else’s. Some things cannot be planned + it’s important to learn how to handle the things we can’t control, by controlling the things that we can. All the while, remembering to trust the timing of your life.
So, how do you ease your mind + get out of your head? How do your steer your life in a direction that feels less frightening, less stressful and more…happy?
You have to acknowledge the things/thoughts that are throwing your mind into overdrive and adjust your thinking. Try to understand why you’re feeling the way that you are + recognize that your “worry” is probably not even merited. Simultaneously, try to focus your energy on becoming the best version of yourself. Use each day to do something productive, something outside of your comfort zone, or something that will help you grow!
Believe that you deserve to be happy, and that you have the ability to create that happiness!
It may seem easier said than done, and some of our feats can feel like they’re just too big to tackle, but it’s really all in our head. We are so capable of accomplishing anything we set our minds to. Little things, big things, and great things! It may not happen overnight, it may not happen all at once, but if you identify your goals + continuously work towards them, you will make them happen. Don’t ever doubt yourself! To avoid future tripping, I’ve kind of begun living my life day by day. Of course I have goals, I have a plan, and I have an idea of what I want my bigger picture to eventually look like…but all I really have is today. And wasting any time worrying about yesterday, or stressing about tomorrow is not helping me reach my goals or moving my plan forward. It’s important to make everyday count, because this is the day that matters most!
I suppose the main message of this post is that our thoughts are such powerful components to the quality of our lives — and we have complete control over them. Wake up in the morning + consciously choose to be happy. Remember to take care of you, to make the most of this day + this moment…and the future will take care of itself. 🙂
Do you ever get in your own head?
What kinds of things do you find yourself stressing about?